How do you feel around negative people? How do you feel when someone you know is always complaining? Have you ever met someone who seems to always be so negative when you’re with them? Have you ever met one of those people who is always doom-and-gloom, who never has anything nice to say about anything or anyone?
When you spend a lot of time around people who are always complaining about things, or bad-mouthing other people behind their backs, it can be very draining — emotionally, mentally, and physically. But let’s face it, we’re all guilty of this from time to time. Right?
So you have to ask yourself, is it possible that sometimes you are that person for somebody else? Maybe you haven’t noticed, but perhaps when you’re with certain people, all you do is complain to them…or even complain with them. Do you ever get carried away in negativity so that all you tend to notice is what’s wrong with your job, your spouse, your friends, the media, those other politicians, the economy, gas prices, food prices, your neighbor’s pet rock, and the fact that there’s only two Starbucks on the corner instead of three?
You, my friend, may be a catalyst of negativity; a lightning rod, so to speak. And I hate to break it to you, but if you are, people probably don’t enjoy hanging around you. And your kids? Yeah, they’re not really into how you’re always ticked off about something, always grumbling. Your significant other doesn’t like it either. It get’s old…fast.
But fear not. I have a solution. It’s not going to be easy, but I think it will definitely be worth it. You can’t change yourself overnight. Self-improvement takes time and patience with yourself. Whether you’re a pretty negative-minded person who’s always complaining, or a very cheerful person who always ready with a complement or optimistic thought, this challenge can be a real eye-opener.
Speak No Evil
For the next 30 day, STOP COMPLAINING! But more than that, stop obsessing over all the negative stuff in your life and constantly talking about it and bringing yourself and other people down. When you feed into your own obsessive thoughts about the bad stuff of life, you’re training your subconscious mind to easily notice more of the same kind of things you’re obsessing over, which, of course, is the bad stuff. And paying more attention to bad stuff wires your brain so that reacting negatively becomes a knee-jerk reaction. That’s not really a good idea, is it?
So for 30 days, stop…
- Mentally reacting to the bad stuff
- Talking about the bad stuff
- Engaging in group-complaining
- Saying anything negative about anyone or anything
Basically, if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. But if you do slip up, that doesn’t mean you have to start the 30 days over. Just keep at it.
In the same way that a negative mindset can develop by habitually thinking that way, a more grateful, optimistic attitude and an overall happier mindset can develop with practice, as well. So this challenge can be a jumping off point for becoming a happier person. The road to self-improvement begins here.
So post a comment below and let us know when you’re starting your 30-day challenge. And when you’re finished, be sure to come on back and tell us how it went for you. Good luck!