Stop Suffering and Start Loving What Is

How would you feel if the people around you weren't being so hurtful by doing or saying things that make you feel miserable? How would your life change if you weren't constantly being bombarded by the negative expectations of others or made to feel like an outcast, misunderstood or unaccepted for who you are? And what would your life be like if you weren't constantly stressed due conditions and challenges you face on a daily basis?  Wouldn't you be a free, peaceful, and truly happy … [Read more...]

Creating Automatic Emotions

Every day we get opportunities to practice various emotions. The ones we rely on the most are the ones that become automatic. But you can create new and more positive automatic emotions. First, let's look at a couple of examples: If every time you get cut off in traffic, your first emotional reaction is anger, it's only because that's the emotion you have practiced so much that it has become your go-to emotional response. And by going with your first reaction, you're also reinforcing … [Read more...]

30-Day Challenge: Speak No Evil

How do you feel around negative people? How do you feel when someone you know is always complaining? Have you ever met someone who seems to always be so negative when you're with them? Have you ever met one of those people who is always doom-and-gloom, who never has anything nice to say about anything or anyone? When you spend a lot of time around people who are always complaining about things, or bad-mouthing other people behind their backs, it can be very draining -- emotionally, mentally, … [Read more...]

A Life of Fulfillment

"A well-spent day brings happy sleep." ~Leonardo da Vinci As far as I know, da Vinci was no sleep expert. But this simple idea has far more to do with living a fulfilling life than simply how to get a good night of sleep. We all go through periods where we feel like we're just spinning our wheels, not getting anything done. This can lead to mood swings, depression, or just an overall dissatisfaction with our lives. But what does that have to do with sleep? I don't know about you, but when … [Read more...]

Why Setting Goals The S.M.A.R.T. Way Doesn’t Always Work

I was listening to an audio book recently and the author was talking about setting goals and how important it is to set a date for accomplishing your goal. He said that setting a date will keep you motivated by knowing the deadline is coming up. I have to disagree. I've set deadlines for many goals, only to watch the dates come and go. Also, I've known many people who have done the same. There isn't any magic in setting a date for a goal. Motivating yourself to accomplish any goal means … [Read more...]

6 Reasons Why You’re Not Happy – And How To Fix Them

1. Stress - This is obvious. When you're feeling stressed, your body is in the fight-or-flight mode. This causes an increase in heart rate, adrenaline and sends more blood to your muscles to allow you to quickly fight or run away from danger. However, you might be feeling stress at work, for example, where you're not going to fight, nor will you walk out. When stress chemicals are frequently saturating your body, they need to be used up or they will begin to damage your body and weaken your … [Read more...]

You’re Not Responsible for Their Happiness

Guilt has a sneaky way of weaseling into hidden areas of your life. Are you doing things out of guilt? Do you feel obligated to participate in certain events or activities and feel guilty if you don't? Ever feel like you're being dumped on, like everybody wants something from you and you're always so busy trying to make everybody else happy, that you never have time to do things that make you happy? From a very early age, we learn how important it is to please everybody else. If you do … [Read more...]

A Simple Way To Transform Your Life

There are some themes that I write about again and again because I know the power behind them. Whether you're just starting a journey of self-improvement or you've been fine-tuning your life for years, transformation isn't random, it's definite. I know that how good or how bad you feel about your life comes down to a couple of key concepts which influence every aspect of who you are, the choices you make, and how you live. When you are trying to make changes in your life, there are two core … [Read more...]