“I Have No Real Love or Passion For Anything”

QUESTION: Hi Scott. I have been reading through all of your posts and your content is really excellent! I do have an issue though. You see, I have no real love or passion for anything. I want to do things in my life. I have always wanted to go and maybe even move to the U.S.A. even though I have never even been there. :) I also want money and I know this is a big factor in many people's motivation but I want to use the money to get to America and live "The Dream". My problem is I just can't … [Read more...]

An Accidental Experiment In Elevating Happiness

Recently, I had an unusual experience. I was at work and, for reasons I could only guess at, instead of feeling the effects of too much gravity and too little sleep, I was completely alert and steady. I had plenty of energy and also felt a greater level of focus than usual. The odd thing was, I wouldn't have known that my level of focus (or my clarity of mind) was running higher than its usual level until I experienced this unexpected contrast. When something unusual happens, I like to … [Read more...]

“How Can I Recover When I Slip Up and How Can I Keep From Slipping Up in the First Place?”

Question: Scott, I’ve had several slip-ups lately concerning my personal goals. The most recent slip up occurred when I was attending a baby shower. I knew they were going to have alcohol, but I had decided to not drink as I usually have my “splurge day” on a Friday or Saturday evening and the shower was on a Thursday evening. As soon as I got there, everyone had a beer or wine glass in their hand, so I went ahead and got one too. I really like beer and wine, so I just couldn’t resist…and as … [Read more...]

9 Sources of Influence in Your Life

The world is constantly moving. Data is swirling around in all directions. And at times, you may feel like you're at the center of it all. So many things can influence you, such as a familiar sweet smell as you drive through your old neighborhood, a picture hanging on the wall in your dentist's office, or even just a color on a billboard. Here is a snapshot of nine sources of influence that are affecting you every day. These sources are at the heart of your day-to-day choices, and have a … [Read more...]

FYI: Negativity Bias

Negativity Bias is a tendency to notice, pay more attention, or give more weight to negative experiences or information over positive. Does this sound like you? When you pay more attention to negative information in all its many forms, you're setting the stage for pessimistic thinking. Since your thinking affects your behavior, you may feel like a storm cloud is always following you around. Negativity Bias Example No. 1 At parent-teacher conferences, your child's teacher has made … [Read more...]

10 Things You May Not Know About Motivation

We are naturally motivated by default. It's only when obstacles appear that we lose our motivation. You're not lazy. People like to claim that they are just lazy or that other people are lazy. When related to motivation, saying that someone is lazy is just another way of saying that they are unmotivated. Confusion is an obstacle. Often, we fail to take action on our goals because we're confused about what the next step is or we're confused about which tools we need to use in order to take … [Read more...]

Strategy for Reducing or Removing Emotional Pain

Do you feel like your life is killing you slowly? Maybe you're not happy with your job or how a relationship is going. Maybe you're stressed out due to money issues or a sick family member. You might feel like your life is not your own. Perhaps you're feeling overwhelmed because there's always more running around to do, or places to be. You may feel like the only down-time you get is when you sleep...if you sleep. Not all pain in life is physical and obvious. Finding the source of physical … [Read more...]

When Goals Get in the Way

I admit, I'm pretty motivated and driven to accomplish some goals in my life. That doesn't mean I live and breathe every moment for those goals. It does, however, mean that I make tough choices so that I'm making my goals a very high priority, as they should be. Why do we set goals? Obviously, we hope to make our lives better in meaningful ways. Some goals have the potential to radically improve our lives, while others may just offer a little happiness or a bit of sunshine in an otherwise … [Read more...]