NOTE: While this article was written using a backdrop of finding a job you like, the essence of what you are about to read applies to finding a great relationship, and, actually, just about every aspect of life. So read it with that awareness.
If you ever hope to have a job you love, there are some fundamental things that you’re going to need to change about yourself before it can ever happen. Even if you manage to fool your way into an incredible job that you totally love, you will eventually find the job meeting you head-on and many of the elements you’ve hated about past jobs will come rushing in, ruining the experience of the new job that you started thinking might be your “perfect” job.
The problem with so many of the things you don’t like about various jobs comes down to the thoughts and beliefs you have. Each belief is like a filter. When you start at a new job, your attention is overwhelmed with the newness of the job. Since you have high hopes that the job will match your desires (or at least your needs), you instantly pay attention to everything that is different and good with the new job. But once the newness wears off, you begin to take a closer look and evaluate everything through your belief filters (which, in this case, are a specific set of job-related biases). Then you start to notice how dirty the bathroom is, how the employees don’t clean up their messes in the break room, and you even begin to encounter the same type of back-stabbing, lazy, double-talking people you left at your last job, and the job before that, and the job before that…etc.
There are some themes that I write about again and again because I know the power behind them. Whether you’re just starting a journey of self-improvement or you’ve been fine-tuning your life for years, transformation isn’t random, it’s definite. I know that how good or how bad you feel about your life comes down to a couple of key concepts which influence every aspect of who you are, the choices you make, and how you live.
If you were like an octopus and you had eight hands, could you be more productive? Sure, it sounds like a great idea, but having more hands isn’t going to mean you’ll know what to do with the extra ones. How about if you could somehow squeeze 30 hours into a 24-hour day, would that make you more productive? Again, just having more time but not having productive habits isn’t going to magically help you to get things done. Bad habits lead to poor results.
Communication is vitally important because we’re so dang bad at reading our partner’s mind (until we’ve been married for many years, that is). The best marriages have a great deal of communication; the worst have little or none. But every aspect of a marriage requires communication in some form. When our emotions get fired up, we are quick to make assumptions based almost entirely on our own unrealistic thoughts about the situation. Most of the time, these assumptions are partially, if not completely, wrong.
When you look all around you, do you see stacks of mail that need to be processed? Perhaps you’ve got books laying around along with a million miscellaneous scraps of paper with scribbled notes on them. Remember that thing you were going to fix that you put aside until you had more time…and now you’re tripping over it every day? Whether you want to be more disciplined, more organized, or just plain happier, clearing out the clutter and freshening up your environment will make a huge difference. In fact, you may not realize how much your psyche is affected by clutter and how different you can feel until it’s all gone.
Happiness Set Point is your overall happiness average. Imagine a graph that looks like a roller coaster; a line moves across the page dipping down and swinging back up, then dropping again. The high points are when you’re happiest. Obviously, the low points represent when you’re a bit depressed or just not really all that happy.
Hi, I'm Scott and I have a passion for helping people change how they see things. Few people really understand how thinking and behavior affects their lives and motivation. That's where I come in. I help people make that connection. I'd like to show you how simple adjustments in your thinking can make your life better.
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