For Sale: Happiness

If happiness were for sale, how much would you be willing to pay for it? I'm not talking about a pill. Imagine buying a box, and when you open it, you would have instant lifelong happiness. Good deal? Maybe... Suppose it was really expensive, say $500...maybe $1,000, or even $10,000, would you pay it? How much you're willing to pay might be determined by how unhappy you are to begin with. If you're desperately miserable, you might pay anything for some relief. What if you took the box … [Read more...]

Change Your Behavior With A 30-Day Challenge

All of us, at one time or another, have a specific behavior we want to adopt or to change. One of the best ways to do this in a short amount of time is with a 30-Day Challenge. You've probably heard of the concept of a 30-day challenge and maybe you've even tried one. The 30-day challenge is the kind of tool that everyone should have in their toolbox. If you haven't heard of it or need a refresher, here's an introduction and some suggestions for using them effectively. 30-Day Challenge Basic … [Read more...]

“How Can I Recover When I Slip Up and How Can I Keep From Slipping Up in the First Place?”

Question: Scott, I’ve had several slip-ups lately concerning my personal goals. The most recent slip up occurred when I was attending a baby shower. I knew they were going to have alcohol, but I had decided to not drink as I usually have my “splurge day” on a Friday or Saturday evening and the shower was on a Thursday evening. As soon as I got there, everyone had a beer or wine glass in their hand, so I went ahead and got one too. I really like beer and wine, so I just couldn’t resist…and as … [Read more...]

9 Sources of Influence in Your Life

The world is constantly moving. Data is swirling around in all directions. And at times, you may feel like you're at the center of it all. So many things can influence you, such as a familiar sweet smell as you drive through your old neighborhood, a picture hanging on the wall in your dentist's office, or even just a color on a billboard. Here is a snapshot of nine sources of influence that are affecting you every day. These sources are at the heart of your day-to-day choices, and have a … [Read more...]

FYI: Negativity Bias

Negativity Bias is a tendency to notice, pay more attention, or give more weight to negative experiences or information over positive. Does this sound like you? When you pay more attention to negative information in all its many forms, you're setting the stage for pessimistic thinking. Since your thinking affects your behavior, you may feel like a storm cloud is always following you around. Negativity Bias Example No. 1 At parent-teacher conferences, your child's teacher has made … [Read more...]

Strategy for Reducing or Removing Emotional Pain

Do you feel like your life is killing you slowly? Maybe you're not happy with your job or how a relationship is going. Maybe you're stressed out due to money issues or a sick family member. You might feel like your life is not your own. Perhaps you're feeling overwhelmed because there's always more running around to do, or places to be. You may feel like the only down-time you get is when you sleep...if you sleep. Not all pain in life is physical and obvious. Finding the source of physical … [Read more...]

When Goals Get in the Way

I admit, I'm pretty motivated and driven to accomplish some goals in my life. That doesn't mean I live and breathe every moment for those goals. It does, however, mean that I make tough choices so that I'm making my goals a very high priority, as they should be. Why do we set goals? Obviously, we hope to make our lives better in meaningful ways. Some goals have the potential to radically improve our lives, while others may just offer a little happiness or a bit of sunshine in an otherwise … [Read more...]

“How Do I Stick To My Goal?”

Question: Scott, I often find that when I set goals which involve a routine, I become a bit lazy about sticking to it. For instance, if I tell myself that I will practice learning a language for 30 minutes each day, I might skip a day, or start doing 20 minutes. And then I think “well, I've been rubbish at sticking to it this week... How about I just scrap this entire week and start afresh with the routine next Monday." It seems like I get stuck constantly 'starting again' because I wasn't … [Read more...]