A Day Of Intention: 24 Hours To A Better You

What would happen if you kept one intention on your mind all day? What would your day be like if you woke up with a single theme for the entire day, something you want to improve in yourself or just be more aware of? We all have our rough edges we would like to smooth out. Perhaps you have a quick temper. Maybe you focus too much on negative possibilities rather than the positive ones. Maybe you're too quick to judge people and you want to change that. No matter what character flaws you … [Read more...]

5 Essential Communication Skills For A Happier Marriage

Communication is vitally important because we're so dang bad at reading our partner's mind (until we've been married for many years, that is). The best marriages have a great deal of communication; the worst have little or none. But every aspect of a marriage requires communication in some form. When our emotions get fired up, we are quick to make assumptions based almost entirely on our own unrealistic thoughts about the situation. Most of the time, these assumptions are partially, if not … [Read more...]

30-Day Challenge: Declutter Your Life

When you look all around you, do you see stacks of mail that need to be processed? Perhaps you've got books laying around along with a million miscellaneous scraps of paper with scribbled notes on them. Remember that thing you were going to fix that you put aside until you had more time...and now you're tripping over it every day?  Whether you want to be more disciplined, more organized, or just plain happier, clearing out the clutter and freshening up your environment will make a huge … [Read more...]

FYI: Happiness Set Point

Happiness Set Point is your overall happiness average. Imagine a graph that looks like a roller coaster; a line moves across the page dipping down and swinging back up, then dropping again. The high points are when you're happiest. Obviously, the low points represent when you're a bit depressed or just not really all that happy. As with graphs that chart trends, your happiness set point sometimes trends upward, trends downward, or may stay mostly the same over time. We all face challenging … [Read more...]

What Do You Do When You’re Unmotivated and Bored?

QUESTION: Scott, I'm feeling more than a little unmotivated to do just about anything today. Suggestions? I'm bored, but I just can't make myself get started on anything. Weird day. What do you do when/if you find yourself in a similar situation? Thanks, Lili ANSWER: Lili, I've observed that a lack of motivation is often really a lack of focus or lack of inspiration. For example, you need to do the dishes and wash some clothes. So you've got focus but doing those things are not … [Read more...]

For Sale: Happiness

If happiness were for sale, how much would you be willing to pay for it? I'm not talking about a pill. Imagine buying a box, and when you open it, you would have instant lifelong happiness. Good deal? Maybe... Suppose it was really expensive, say $500...maybe $1,000, or even $10,000, would you pay it? How much you're willing to pay might be determined by how unhappy you are to begin with. If you're desperately miserable, you might pay anything for some relief. What if you took the box … [Read more...]

“How Can I Recover When I Slip Up and How Can I Keep From Slipping Up in the First Place?”

Question: Scott, I’ve had several slip-ups lately concerning my personal goals. The most recent slip up occurred when I was attending a baby shower. I knew they were going to have alcohol, but I had decided to not drink as I usually have my “splurge day” on a Friday or Saturday evening and the shower was on a Thursday evening. As soon as I got there, everyone had a beer or wine glass in their hand, so I went ahead and got one too. I really like beer and wine, so I just couldn’t resist…and as … [Read more...]

FYI: Negativity Bias

Negativity Bias is a tendency to notice, pay more attention, or give more weight to negative experiences or information over positive. Does this sound like you? When you pay more attention to negative information in all its many forms, you're setting the stage for pessimistic thinking. Since your thinking affects your behavior, you may feel like a storm cloud is always following you around. Negativity Bias Example No. 1 At parent-teacher conferences, your child's teacher has made … [Read more...]