Strategy for Reducing or Removing Emotional Pain

Do you feel like your life is killing you slowly? Maybe you're not happy with your job or how a relationship is going. Maybe you're stressed out due to money issues or a sick family member. You might feel like your life is not your own. Perhaps you're feeling overwhelmed because there's always more running around to do, or places to be. You may feel like the only down-time you get is when you sleep...if you sleep. Not all pain in life is physical and obvious. Finding the source of physical … [Read more...]

The Unofficial Guide to Motivation

I have something to share with you. It's big! In fact, it was over 20 years in the making. Okay, not actually 20 years of labor, but it took over 20 years to decipher the motivation code. I'm talking about something radical, and potentially life-changing. Today is the one-year anniversary of Behavior and Motivation. And to celebrate, I have released The Unofficial Guide to Motivation (abridged edition). And it could change your life! Today, most websites offer their best content in the form … [Read more...]

“How Do I Stick To My Goal?”

Question: Scott, I often find that when I set goals which involve a routine, I become a bit lazy about sticking to it. For instance, if I tell myself that I will practice learning a language for 30 minutes each day, I might skip a day, or start doing 20 minutes. And then I think “well, I've been rubbish at sticking to it this week... How about I just scrap this entire week and start afresh with the routine next Monday." It seems like I get stuck constantly 'starting again' because I wasn't … [Read more...]

Motivating with Token Reward Systems

Over the years, I've successfully used points, stickers, stars, candy, and other various tokens to motivate kids. A token economy (which is the more formal name for a reward system using tokens) can be very simple or deeply comprehensive. But no matter how simple or complex, it can bring remarkable results. For example, I was a self-employed piano teacher for ten years. During those ten years, I created a point system for motivating my students to practice every day. If you've ever taken … [Read more...]

How To Say “No”

I was fresh out of high school and ready to take on life. The world seemed extra bright and teeming with people, places and things to do...too many things to do. I've always tried to be a dependable person, but I learned that when people can count on you, they're more likely to ask for favors. While I enjoy helping people when they're in need, this can also become a burden, if not handled thoughtfully. Knowing that I was someone people turned to when they didn't feel they had anyone else they … [Read more...]

Get Motivated at Home Like You Are at Work

Have you ever said, "Why am I so much more motivated at work then I am at home?" Ever wonder why you can get yourself to wake up early and go to work every day, even if you hate your job, but you can't get yourself up early on the weekend to do a special project at home, even when you actually want to do it? Why are you able to stick to deadlines at work but you can't stick to them at home? If you're like me, the goals you set outside of job-related goals, are more important, but it seems so … [Read more...]

My Experiments With Confidence

Just after graduating from high school, I'm sure I seemed like an average guy to all my friends. But hiding beneath my "normal" facade, was a guy who was socially shy around new people and not very confident or outgoing.  It wasn't that I didn't want to be more outgoing, and I definitely wanted to be more confident, I just wasn't. A person who lacks confidence really only has two options: 1) learn to assert yourself, or 2) crawl under a rock. Becoming more confident was my highest priority. … [Read more...]

Strategies for Setting A New Year’s Resolution

"What's your New Year's resolution?" I'll bet you've been asked that question many times over the years. The New Year's resolution gets a lot of hype around the start of every year. Some people completely disregard it while others reluctantly set a goal but they always include an eternal caveat: "I don't know why, I'll never achieve it." Or they say, "I always set a New Year's resolution but I never reach it. I don't know why I even bother." If you're one of those people, then you've probably … [Read more...]